If we look at the davening that we do each day, we\u2019ll notice something interesting \u2013 it\u2019s almost entirely in the plural, in particular the focal point of our davening, where we ask for the many things that we need \u2013 shemoneh esrei<\/em> [lit: eighteen, referring to the number of blessings in that prayer, to which one blessing was later added making for a total of nineteen blessings (while the name eighteen was preserved) and which is also known as the Amidah \u2013 lit: standing, because the prayer is meant to be said while one stands with his feet together]: \u201cendow us\u2026with wisdom\u201d; \u201cbring us back\u201d; \u201cforgive us\u201d; \u201credeem us\u201d; \u201cheal us\u201d; and on and on.<\/p>\n When we stand before G-d, in that most intimate of moments with our Creator where it\u2019s almost like we\u2019re whispering in His ear (and I remember when I davened at the kotel how it truly felt that way), we don\u2019t just daven for ourselves and our own needs, but for those of the entire Jewish people generally. Davening for others isn\u2019t just a nice thing to do, it\u2019s an essential part of what we do and of what davening is. But it goes further than this. Much further. In fact, it\u2019s almost scary how much we have to think about, take note of, care about, and daven for others.<\/p>\n Hearing the cries of others<\/strong><\/p>\n Our Sages learn a fundamental lesson about davening from the case of the metzora<\/em>, the person who was afflicted with the spiritual malady known as tzara\u2019as<\/em> (often mistranslated as \u2018leprosy\u2019 despite the fact that it bears almost no resemblance whatsoever to it and that it could even affect things like walls and clothing!) which required that the person afflicted with it go outside of the machanei Yehudah<\/em> (the camp) because of the spiritual impurity that resulted from it. The Torah says[1]<\/a><\/sup> that whenever anyone would come near the metzora<\/em>, \u201c\u2018Tamei <\/em>(impure), Tamei<\/em>\u2019 he [ie the metzora<\/em>] shall call out.\u201d Why does the metzora<\/em> need to cry out like this? The gemara[2]<\/a><\/sup> explains that the purpose of the metzora\u2019s<\/em> crying out is in order to inform the rabim<\/em> (masses) about his pain, so that the rabim<\/em> will ask for rachamim<\/em> (mercy) for him.<\/p>\n From here, we clearly see the obligation that is imposed upon each and every one of us to daven for our fellow who is in a situation of pain or difficulty.<\/p>\n And this shouldn\u2019t be surprising to us because when we see someone else in pain, and it\u2019s in our power to help that person \u2013 who wouldn\u2019t rush to that person\u2019s assistance and do whatever he could to help? For example, there\u2019s hardly anyone in the world who would see someone fall in the street, injured, and who wouldn\u2019t hurry to that person\u2019s aid and call for medical assistance for him.<\/p>\n And so too, when we see someone in financial distress, if we had in our possession sufficient money to assist that person \u2013 we would help him as much as possible in order to rescue him from his distress. Or, if one of our friends was extremely wealthy and able to give such assistance to anyone in need, we would be quick to ask him for help for this person who had fallen on hard times.<\/p>\n What we need to recognise is that, the truth is, we all have just such a friend, and even better than a friend, because each and every one of us has a loving, merciful, all-powerful Father in Heaven capable of providing any assistance that we need, and it\u2019s in our hands to call out to Him on behalf of our friends in order that He will help them with whatever they need.<\/p>\n A lack of faith or just plain cruelty?<\/strong><\/p>\n So important is recognising the plight of others that our Sages teach[3]<\/a><\/sup>, \u201cAnyone who has the ability to ask for rachamim<\/em> for his fellow and doesn\u2019t ask on his behalf, he is called chotei<\/em> (a sinner), [as Shmuel HaNavi (Samuel the Prophet)] said[4]<\/a><\/sup> [to the Jewish people], \u201cAs for me, G-d forbid that I should sin to Hashem and refrain from davening for you.\u201d Our Sages don\u2019t limit the responsibility to daven for others to Prophets, or to the leaders of the generation, or to shul rabbis, or to tzaddikim. They say anyone! Each and every one of us has the ability to cry out to our Father and, more importantly, we all must do so.<\/p>\n But why does the gemara classify a person who fails to ask for rachamim<\/em> for his fellow as a sinner? What sin has the person committed? Because if one doesn\u2019t daven for someone when he knows that the person is in pain, it could only be for one of two possible reasons: either he lacks emunah<\/em> (faith) in Hashem and in the power of tefillah<\/em> (prayer), or he is cruel because he knows that it\u2019s within his power to help and, instead, he turns a blind eye and chooses not to do so. In either case, the person is called \u201cchotei\u201d<\/em> (a sinner).<\/p>\n We can see just how important davening for others is \u2013 literally a matter of life and death for the one responsible for doing the davening \u2013 from another case that\u2019s brought in the gemara.<\/p>\n Dropping the ball<\/strong><\/p>\n The gemara in masechta Makkos discusses the case of a person who killed someone accidentally, and who must run to one of the irei miklat<\/em> (cities of refuge) in order to escape from the relatives of the deceased, who are permitted to kill him if they find him outside of the boundary of one of these cities. Regarding such a person, the Torah teaches[5]<\/a><\/sup>, \u201c\u2026in the ir miklat<\/em> he must dwell until the Kohen Gadol (High Priest) dies.\u201d Our Sages teach[6]<\/a><\/sup> that the mothers of the Kohanim Gedolim (High Priests) would supply food and clothing to those exiled to the ir miklat<\/em> in order to make them very comfortable in the strange surroundings so that these people should daven that their sons, the Kohanim Gedolim, should not die, because it was the responsibility of the Kohanim Gedolim to ask for rachamim<\/em> for their generation, and they didn\u2019t ask for it. It seems to be that the only way for an accidental death such as this to take place was if the Kohen Gadol wasn\u2019t doing what he was supposed to be doing: davening for the generation to prevent any misfortunes from taking place.<\/p>\n The Levush comments on the above cited verse and elaborates on it: Because he [the Kohen Gadol] did not daven that there should not occur this accident (ie the one that resulted in someone dying) in Israel in his lifetime, therefore, this mishap came about, and so the Torah obligates this person (who caused the accidental death) to dwell in the ir miklat<\/em> until the death of the Kohen Gadol. This person who must dwell in the ir miklat<\/em> is pained because he is not able to return to dwell in his own home the entire time that the Kohen Gadol is alive, and, as a result of this, he will (naturally) daven that the Kohen Gadol should die (as the Kohen Gadol\u2019s death will allow him to return home), and (rather amazingly) this person\u2019s prayer will be accepted, with the result being that the Kohen Gadol will be punished middah keneged middah<\/em> (measure for measure; ie in kind): because he did not daven (for rachamim<\/em> for the generation \u2013 that there should be no accidental deaths), he will die shelo b\u2019zmano<\/em> (not at the time he was supposed to) as a result of the tefilla of this one (the man dwelling in the ir miklat<\/em>), and another person will be appointed in his place (to serve as the Kohen Gadol), someone who will daven for rachamim<\/em> for the generation as the Kohen Gadol is meant to do.<\/p>\n From this explanation, we see something truly astounding: that there not only exists a concern that this person who accidentally killed someone will daven that the Kohen Gadol will die, but that the Torah actually wants for this to happen, and even causes it to happen (ie by putting this person, who killed someone by accident, in a difficult and unpleasant situation from which he will want to get out of) in order to remove the Kohen Gadol from his position and have appointed in his place another, more suitable person, who will feel the pain of the generation and daven for them and, as a consequence, there will not be any such misfortunes in Israel.<\/p>\n Making it habit <\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s implicit from our Sages that recognising the plight of others and davening for them was something that the Jewish people were accustomed to doing from the earliest of times, which they derive from the following teaching of our Sages[7]<\/a><\/sup>: It was taught regarding a tree that sheds its fruits (ie a sick tree), dye it with red paint. What sort of remedy is this? How will staining the tree with red paint manage to heal it from whatever ails it? They did this so that men who passed by that tree would be sure to see it, take note of the fact that the tree was sick, and ask for rachamim<\/em> on its behalf, that it should be healed. And this is learned from none other than: the metzora<\/em>, who, as we previously described, needs to announce his pain to the masses in order that they will ask for rachamim<\/em> for him. So we see that if it was the ordinary habit by the Jewish people that someone should see a sick tree and ask for rachamim<\/em> for it, then they certainly would have done so when they became aware of a person who was in pain!<\/p>\n So we have to take a moment to consider whether we are doing everything that we can in this regard. When we hear about someone who is having a difficult time, whatever it may be, do we take a moment to daven for him? When we travel in the street and we see a person sitting in a wheelchair or some other such situation of a person living in pain, we should accustom ourselves that there should immediately pour forth from us a short tefillah<\/em> on behalf of this person.<\/p>\n When we hear about someone who is sick, do we pay any attention to it? Do we make note of the name so that we can daven for that person? When tehillim are said after davening, do we make the time to stay or do we run out because we have to get to work or someplace else that\u2019s \u201cmore important\u201d? Who knows how many souls will claim against us in Heaven for failing to daven for them?<\/p>\n We need to open our eyes and become better at recognising sources of pain for others. For example, when we pass children in the street who are clearly behaving inappropriately, in a way that doesn\u2019t bring nachas to their Creator, do we recognise how much pain that there must be for their parents, how much pain that there must be for their Creator? We need to take a moment, pause, and daven a short tefillah<\/em> that they will change their behaviour. We need to become accustomed to doing so \u2013 to being aware of and taking note of the people and circumstances around us, their troubles and pains, and to calling out constantly to Hashem, Who is always close to us, ready, willing, and able to help, and pouring out heartfelt words of tefillah<\/em> to Him.<\/p>\n Adapted from Tiferes Shimshon al HaTorah, Parshas Tazria<\/em><\/p>\n Tuning into the pain of others and asking for help By: Robert Sussman If we look at the davening that we do each day, we\u2019ll notice something interesting \u2013 it\u2019s almost entirely in the plural, in particular the focal point of our davening, where we ask for the many things that we need \u2013 shemoneh esrei [lit: eighteen, referring to the number of blessings in that prayer, to which one blessing was later added making for a total of nineteen blessings (while the name eighteen was preserved) and which is…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":2886,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[69,73],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2891","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-69","category-july-2021"],"gutentor_comment":0,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2891","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2891"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2891\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2892,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2891\/revisions\/2892"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2886"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2891"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2891"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.jewishlife.co.za\/new\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2891"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n