We have certain commandments that are bein adam l\u2019chaveiro<\/em>, between man and his fellow man: to love our fellow as we love ourselves; not to hate our fellow; not to bear a grudge against him; not to take revenge against him.[1]<\/a><\/sup> These aren\u2019t easy mitzvos. In fact, I once gave a series of shiurim regarding them and one of the attendees turned to me and sincerely queried whether these mitzvos were really possible to keep; sure these mitzvos sound fine in theory, but, in practice, can people really rise to such a lofty level, essentially living like angels among men? We know that Hashem doesn\u2019t command us in anything that we can\u2019t do, but I had nothing that I could point to in the way of an example for this man, someone who this man could relate to and demonstrate that such behaviour was not beyond our reach.<\/p>\n Nothing, that is, until I came across a book called The Prime Ministers<\/em> by Yehuda Avner (Toby Press 2010). If you haven\u2019t read it, it\u2019s a must read \u2013 a love letter to Menachem Begin. As I read that book, I knew that I had my proof. Avner details a campaign speech made by Begin in the first ever elections in Israel, in which Begin explained how he had managed to avoid Civil War between his Irgun and Ben-Gurion\u2019s Hagana:<\/p>\n \u201cWe were almost at each other\u2019s\u2019 throats,\u201d [Begin] declared, \u201cnot only in the matter of the Altalena arms ship, but even before that, in nineteen forty-four, when the Irgun rose up in revolt against the British, in defiance of Ben-Gurion\u2019s command \u2026 It was a year of unspeakable torment \u2026 Our sisters and brothers in Europe were being slaughtered in the millions. But Ben-Gurion insisted we join the Allies in defeating the Nazis before rebelling to expel the British from our land. My colleagues and I thought otherwise. Ben-Gurion was so hostile to our revolt he tried to squash it by unleashing his Hagana men to round up our fighters and hand them over to the British. It was madness. It was tearing Jews apart. I could smell the stench of civil war \u2026 So I told our men to go quietly, not to resist. It was extremely hard to order our men to restrain their natural instinct for revenge, but I had to do it. I had to do it, <\/em>Ki Yehudim anachnu!\u201d [Because we are Jews!] \u2026 Oh yes, it was very hard. Yet our fighters understood my command and humbled their natural instinct for reprisal. They surrendered quietly, many of them to be transported to British detention camps in Eritrea \u2026 Our men were dismissed from their jobs. Their children were expelled from schools. Hagana men kidnapped our Irgun men. They were often treated grimly before being turned over to the British police. Lists of our members, officers, and rank-and-file were handed in by Jewish informers. There were daily roundups. Our arms caches and safe houses were exposed.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u201cAll the love of which the human heart is capable wells up within me as I recall our underground fighters, unflinching, fearless, moved by a supreme fighting spirit, and who, nevertheless, allowed themselves to be flung into detention camps, thrown into dark cellars, starved, beaten, and maligned. And not one of them\u201d <\/em>\u2013 he rose to his full height, his eyes fierce with pain \u2013 \u201cNOT ONE OF THEM broke his solemn oath not to retaliate! From the depths of Jewish history came the order not to fight back, and it was obeyed to the very last man.\u201d <\/em>He trumpeted this with a stab of the finger, his face as granite as his eyes, and the audience responded with another mighty wave of applause. But then a sudden rigidity came over him, and his shoulders lifted in the manner of a soldier at a march: \u201cNow hear this each and every one of you, and hear it well. I live by an iron rule: a Jew must never lift a finger against a fellow Jew, NEVER. A Jew must never shed the blood of another Jew, NEVER. Twenty centuries ago we faced the bitter experience of the destruction of our Second Temple, the destruction of our capital Jerusalem. And why? Because of our senseless hatred of each other, a hatred that led to civil war and to our utter ruin: \u2026generations of tears. And, therefore, I long ago took a solemn oath that no matter the provocation, no matter the circumstances, I would never ever be a party to a civil war, NEVER!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n He was standing ramrod straight, his face fearless, his hands balled, his voice choking with sincerity: \u201cDo we not know from history what civil war does to a nation? Do we not know that generations pass before a nation at war with itself can ever heal? Therefore, I say to you tonight, a curse on him who preaches civil war. Let his hand be cut off before he raises it against another Jew. There will never be a civil war in Israel \u2013 NEVER!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Avner continues\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n In his speech that night [Begin] made no mention of what befell him personally on board the burning Altalena. Eyewitnesses told me about that much later on. They told me how a loudspeaker was rigged on the ship to enable Begin to address the many people lining the Tel Aviv beach, some watching the crippled ship, others firing at it.<\/em><\/p>\n \u201cPeople of Tel Aviv,\u201d Begin roared, \u201cwe of the Irgun have brought you arms to fight the enemy, but the Government is denying them to you.\u201d And then, to the soldiers firing at him from the beach: \u201cFor G-d\u2019s sake, help us unload these arms which are for our common defense. If there are differences among us, let us reason together.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n One of the people who heard him say this was Yitzhak Rabin, then deputy commander of the Palmach \u2013 the Hagana\u2019s crack striking force \u2026 \u201cI honestly believed what Ben-Gurion was saying, that Begin was mounting a coup,\u201d he would tell me years later. \u201cSo when ordered to take command of a Palmach unit and open fire, I did. There was a gun battery nearby, a very old cannon, unequipped with sights and with a very slim chance of a direct hit. But clearly, this was no mere shelling to frighten off the people on board; it was meant to strike home. And strike home it did. The gun progressively zoned in on its target and the third shell hit it, setting the ship ablaze. And what a hit that was!\u201d Eye witnesses described Menachem Begin standing on the burning deck like some figure in a parable, black from the acrid smoke, flinging up his arms and yelling frantically to his men, \u201cDon\u2019t shoot back! Don\u2019t open fire. No civil war!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n As if this wasn\u2019t enough to show us that it\u2019s possible to keep these mitzvos, fast forward nearly 20 years and we\u2019ll see even further proof. In 1967 \u2013 just before the start of the 6 Day War \u2013 Menachem Begin met with then Prime Minister, Levi Eshkol. Begin wanted Eshkol to step aside in favour of none other than the man whom logic would have dictated would have been Begin\u2019s arch enemy, a man who had literally tried to kill him: David Ben-Gurion! Eshkol was naturally shocked:<\/p>\n \u201cBut how can you, of all people, ask me to step aside in favor [sic] of the man who has abused you at every turn, tried to bring you down at every turn?\u201d asked an astonished Eshkol\u2026 [Begin answered,] \u201cI\u2019m proposing you hand over the reins of government to Ben-Gurion and become his deputy in a national unity government. I have the highest regard for you personally, but I think the situation is so grave and your responsibilities so heavy, you cannot carry the burden on your shoulders. I am firmly of the belief that Ben-Gurion has to lead the nation in this hour of peril. He is a war leader.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Eshkol shot him a sharp look, and there followed a brittle silence which was broken when he snapped, \u201cImpossible! Ben-Gurion is eighty-one.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n \u201cTrue, but I say again, he\u2019s a tried and tested war leader.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n The Prime Minister, hurt to the core, stared upwards, studying the ceiling, trying to take it all in. Finally, he shot back, \u201cYou are asking me to do this after all Ben-Gurion has done and said about you over all these years? He\u2019s even compared you to Hitler.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n So what would we expect Begin to respond? Something along the lines of: \u201cYou\u2019re right. I hate him to my core. I can\u2019t stand the man. But, I\u2019m a big enough person to put the needs of our people first.\u201d<\/p>\n Nothing of the kind. Begin told Eshkol in no uncertain terms:<\/p>\n \u201cThe enmity is his, not mine. I live by the maxim that a Jew should never hate another Jew.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n As an attorney, it was probably the strongest case that I\u2019d ever made. I don\u2019t think there was a dry eye in the room when I gave this over one Shabbos morning and, in true South African spirit, every single person present came up to tell me how much they enjoyed it, the men shaking my hand vigorously as they did so.<\/p>\n But what admittedly nagged at me was the fact that Begin did seem super human \u2013 like an angel among men. And maybe he was just born of a temperament that made all of this easier for him than it was for others, especially lesser humans like ourselves.<\/p>\n But, just recently, I saw a dvar Torah by Rabbi Shimshon Dovid Pincus[2]<\/a><\/sup> which served to explain why Begin was able to rise to the occasion and, more importantly, why each of us has within us the very same potential to fulfil these very difficult mitzvos.<\/p>\n When the Torah says \u201cdon\u2019t take revenge\u201d, the intention is that if someone wrongs a person or causes him pain, that the person who was wronged will not repay the bad thing that was done to him. When the Torah says \u201cdon\u2019t bear a grudge\u201d, it means that the person who was wronged will also not remember in his heart the bad thing that was done to him. When the Torah says \u201clove your neighbour as you love yourself\u201d, it means that not only must you not take revenge against this person who did something bad to you or who insulted you, and not only must you uproot from your heart the memory of what he did to you, but also you must love him with a complete love, just like you love yourself!<\/p>\n These mitzvos \u2013 not taking revenge, not bearing a grudge, and loving your neighbour \u2013 appear logical when we speak about them, but when it comes to doing them, we encounter tremendous challenges and we need to be almost like an angel in order to fulfil them.<\/p>\n Regarding taking revenge and bearing a grudge, this includes our holding back from doing good to someone who did not want to do us good or that did something bad to us already; and bearing a grudge is remembering, at the time that we do good for someone who wronged us, this memory of the wrong that was done to us. The yetzer (evil inclination) boils the heart and constantly asks to leave at least some impression or some memory when bad things are done to us, and, if it\u2019s not possible for there to remain a large memory, the yetzer will strive that there should at least remain some small trace of a memory. On this, the Torah comes and says: Love your fellow as you love yourself \u2013 like you, without any differences, distinctions, or qualifications; truly like you.<\/p>\n Indeed, the Torah emphasises, \u201cLove your neighbour like yourself.\u201d \u201cYour neighbour\u201d, meaning the people who are closest to you, for example: your family and friends, and especially a husband or wife, because these mitzvos are twice as hard to fulfil towards those who are the closest to us, as the insults that come from them, even the slightest ones, hurt the most, like a fine needle that penetrates deep inside the flesh. And, the desire to take revenge, even a tiny bit of revenge, is very strong \u2013 as our Sages teach that revenge is sweeter than honey!<\/p>\n So, the Torah comes to emphasise and to inform us that the neshama<\/em> (the soul) that\u2019s inside us is from the upper worlds and, consequently, it is within our power to be like lofty angels and to forgive, and even not to remember the wrongs and the insults that were done to us, and this is why the verse which states, \u201cDon\u2019t take revenge, don\u2019t bear a grudge against the members of your people, and love your neighbour as you love yourself,\u201d \u2013 ends with the words, \u201cI am Hashem\u201d \u2013 because Hashem gives us the power to stand firm in this if we choose to do so.<\/p>\n Menachem Begin wasn\u2019t an angel. And he wasn\u2019t any different than the rest of us. What made him special was the level to which he managed to succeed in this area \u2013 and the way that he worked on himself and the amazing love that he felt for every single Jew, including those who wronged him and even those who tried to kill him. Each and every one of us has a pure and holy soul inside him, and each and every one of us can strive to live just as Begin did and to live by the maxim that \u2013 no matter what \u2013 a Jew must never hate another Jew.<\/p>\n Dedicated to Reverend Brian Lurie (l\u2019ilui nishmas Dov Ber Nachum ben Eliyahu, a\u201dh), who passed away in Durban on 23 June 2019.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Menachem Begin lived by the maxim that a Jew should never hate another Jew and, the truth is, we all should live by that adage By: Robert Sussman We have certain commandments that are bein adam l\u2019chaveiro, between man and his fellow man: to love our fellow as we love ourselves; not to hate our fellow; not to bear a grudge against him; not to take revenge against him.[1] These aren\u2019t easy mitzvos. 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