Rabbi Shimshon Dovid Pincus, ztz\u201dl, tells (Tiferes Shimshon al HaTorah<\/em> \u2013 Parshas Eikev)<\/em> of a letter that he once received, in which the letter writer asked him a series of questions related to the topic of bitachon<\/em> (trust) in Hashem and whether the following actions, among others, would be seen as a defect in a person\u2019s measure of bitachon<\/em>:<\/p>\n 1. Installing a Pladelet<\/em> door (the brand name of an Israeli-made steel security door)?<\/p>\n 2. If you advise not to install the Pladelet<\/em> door, but a robbery has already occurred in our house, would it be the same?<\/p>\n 3. A wife going out to work?<\/p>\n 4. A person working extra hours?<\/p>\n In his discussion of the letter, Rabbi Pincus notes that the letter writer was a good Jew and that, if he answered this man that the man should not buy a Pladelet<\/em> door, the man would accept this decision without any hesitation. But, Rabbi Pincus explains, the problem would be that the reason that the man would not buy the Pladelet<\/em> door is not because he trusts in Hashem that thieves will not enter his home, but because he\u2019s relying on the fact that Rabbi Pincus said that he shouldn\u2019t buy a Pladelet<\/em> door! This man will think that doing so will be some kind of segulah<\/em> (charm or protection) \u2013 that if he will not buy a Pladelet<\/em> door, then thieves will not enter his home.<\/p>\n Rabbi Pincus explains that this man is not someone who trusts in Hashem. In fact, for this man, Hashem is actually not in the picture at all. \u201cIf Hashem was in the picture, this man wouldn\u2019t be turning to me with his questions, and would instead increase his trust in Hashem and ask from Hashem that He will protect him from thieves.\u201d<\/p>\n In terms of hishtadlus<\/em> (ie. the minimum effort that a person must put forth from his side), certainly, if experts decide that not having a Pladelet<\/em> door is a situation where damage or loss can be expected to result, then a person would need to install such a door. And, if a person failed to do so, then it would be comparable to him leaving his door open all night and hanging a big sign outside that says, \u201cWelcome to all thieves who have travelled from outside the city.\u201d In other words, he is simply declaring his property to be ownerless and free for the taking. On such a situation, the Mesilas Yesharim<\/em> (The Path of the Just) says, \u201cThere is trust (in Hashem), and then there is foolishness.\u201d In other words, behaving recklessly does not demonstrate trust in Hashem, nor will a person who behaves in such a way merit protection from Hashem.<\/p>\n In a normal situation, however, regarding a regular door, not a Pladelet<\/em> door, a person closes it and locks it \u2013 and, with those two actions, closing and locking, he has fulfilled his obligation of putting forth effort from his side, and that\u2019s enough (ie. Hashem will do the rest).<\/p>\n Rabbi Pincus explains that the letter writer is afraid of thieves and, therefore, he asks if it\u2019s permissible for him to buy a Pladelet <\/em>door. \u201cIf I wrote to him that it was forbidden for him to buy a Pladelet<\/em> door because this would be a defect in his trust in Hashem \u2013 he would not buy it.\u201d But, this conduct will not connect this man at all to Hashem and to trusting in Him because, in fact, he would not be relying on Hashem; he would be relying on the fact that he had not bought the door\u2026<\/p>\n So also, with the other matters of trust that he asked about, for example: his wife going out to work, or his working extra hours, etc. \u201cIf I would answer him on these questions, I would simply be deceiving him. If I said to him: Don\u2019t let your wife go out to work or don\u2019t work extra hours, he will simply rely on this \u2018system\u2019, but it will not connect him at all to Hashem.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI would have to answer someone like this: \u2018If you ask me, and I give you an answer, it will have missed the entire point. You don\u2019t need to ask me. You should decide for yourself how much to rely on Hashem and then behave accordingly.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n A lack of bitachon<\/em> means that when a person has a problem, he goes in search of advice. Why is he going in search of advice? He has a compassionate father (ie. Hashem) who has sufficient money, so trust Him to bring you the money. You don\u2019t even need to ask Him, because he knows that you need money, and, if it\u2019s a worthy cause, He will give it to you immediately.<\/p>\n \u201cTrue bitachon<\/em> is not asking the rabbi what to do. It\u2019s seeing all the neighbours buying Pladelet<\/em> doors, seeing that every day in my building there are 20 thefts, and, nevertheless, deciding there is no problem because I have someone who guards my house. Hashem watches over me! If you will ask me, why doesn\u2019t He protect them too? I don\u2019t know, and it\u2019s none of my business! Do I know everything in the world? Just as I don\u2019t understand why Hashem made me with two ears and one nose and didn\u2019t create me instead with two noses and one ear \u2013 so too I don\u2019t know why Hashem doesn\u2019t protect them\u2026I know that I rely on Hashem and that\u2019s it. I didn\u2019t buy a Pladelet<\/em> door! This is bitachon<\/em>!\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cFor years, I have been asked questions in the area of bitachon<\/em>. People need to know that there is not another matter like this! If you ask \u2013 this is a sign that you don\u2019t trust in Hashem; you don\u2019t have anything to ask me\u2026because bitachon<\/em> is something between a man and his Creator.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cNo one would come to ask me a question like this: \u2018My father said that he will give me 100 shekels a month. Can I rely on him?\u2019 Could I know if such a person can count on his father?! Do I know this father and his relationship with his son?! And, so also for our case: I know Hashem, but I don\u2019t know the relationship between you and Hashem \u2013 your connection to Him \u2013 so how can I judge for you? This is a matter that depends on your heart, on the connection that you have with G-d.\u201d<\/p>\n Rabbi Pincus concludes his discussion of the letter by saying, \u201cIt must be noted that, in practical terms, this requires a lot of fortitude, and this is one of the most difficult avodos<\/em> (tasks) that there is in Judaism.\u201d<\/p>\n In a box:<\/strong><\/p>\n What does it mean to have bitachon<\/em> (trust) in Hashem? The Chovos HaLevovos<\/em> (Duties of the Heart) written by Rabbi Bachya ibn Paquda defines bitachon<\/em> as \u201cmenuchas nefesh\u201d<\/em> (tranquillity of spirit) of the one who trusts, relying on the one in whom he trusts to do what is good and right for him regarding the matter for which he trusts. The one who trusts believes that the one in whom he trusts will keep his word and do as he promised. (See Sha\u2019ar HaBitachon, Perek Aleph) <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When it comes to some things, if you have to ask, then you already know the answer By: Robert Sussman Rabbi Shimshon Dovid Pincus, ztz\u201dl, tells (Tiferes Shimshon al HaTorah \u2013 Parshas Eikev) of a letter that he once received, in which the letter writer asked him a series of questions related to the topic of bitachon (trust) in Hashem and whether the following actions, among others, would be seen as a defect in a person\u2019s measure of bitachon: 1. 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